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Writer's pictureJacqui Baker

Why Being Too Set in Your Ways Could Be Holding You Back from Love 💕

I’m Jacqui Baker, a matchmaker specialising in helping singles in their 50s, 60s, and 70s find someone special to share their life with. Over the years, I’ve seen how many older singles have a firmly set mindset about what they think they need in a partner. And that’s before they’ve even spent much time online dating! Once they do, online dating often makes things worse—it turns everything into a focus on images and profiles.


Then, throw online dating into the mix, and things get even harder—suddenly, everything is reduced to a photo and a few lines in a profile.


The sad reality? You could swipe right past someone who might actually make you feel cherished, secure, and happy in a loving relationship—all because they didn’t tick an imaginary box or grab your attention straight away.


A few weeks ago, I had a conversation with a wonderful lady (early 60s) I’ve been working with about a potential match. She was quite insistent that this wasn’t someone she would normally pursue. In her mind, he didn’t tick the boxes of what she thought she needed in a partner—her “type” was clear, and he didn’t seem to fit.

But here’s the thing: because I meet all my clients personally, I had a good feeling about this gentleman. I could see that personality-wise, he would be a great match for her. I just needed to help her see it too! So, we talked through what really matters in a relationship—the way someone makes you feel, the connection you could build, and the possibility of creating something special together.


It took a little convincing, but she trusted me enough to give it a go.


Fast forward six weeks, and they are absolutely smitten. They spend precious time together, are in constant contact, and have already introduced each other to their friends and families. To top it off, they even sent me a lovely gift to say thank you. 💌


The lesson? Love often finds us when we let go of rigid expectations. It’s easy to feel certain that we know what’s best for us, but true connection comes from being open to new possibilities—even the ones that don’t fit the “list.”


This is exactly why I do what I do. My goal is to help people see beyond their set expectations and open themselves up to the possibility of finding love or companionship—that makes you feel cared for, valued, and truly happy.


If you’re ready to let go of what’s holding you back and take a step toward something real, let’s talk. Together, we’ll find someone special who fits into your life in ways you might not expect..


Because the person who changes your life might be someone you didn’t expect at all.


Let’s make it happen. 💖


Jacqui Baker


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