At Select Connections, our mission is to empower those in mid to later life to navigate the challenges of dating over 50, break free from stigma, and find love and companionship. We provide a unique, all-inclusive, and discreet service that supports and equips our clients to date more effectively and build sustainable, fulfilling relationships.
Empowerment: We empower our clients to take control of their dating lives and make informed choices to find love and companionship.
Inclusiveness: We welcome and serve a diverse clientele, promoting inclusivity and openness in all our interactions.
Discretion: We uphold the highest standards of discretion and confidentiality, respecting the privacy of our clients.
Support: We provide unwavering support and guidance to help our clients navigate the dating landscape with confidence.
Effectiveness: We are committed to helping our clients date more effectively, ensuring they have the best possible chance of finding lasting, meaningful relationships.
Fulfillment: We aim to bring fulfillment and happiness to the lives of our clients by assisting them in building sustainable and rewarding relationships.
Integrity: We conduct our business with the utmost integrity, honesty, and transparency, ensuring our clients have complete trust in our services.
Compassion: We approach our clients with empathy and understanding, recognising the unique challenges and needs of those in mid to later life.
Personal Growth: We foster personal growth and self-discovery to empower our clients to be their best selves in their dating journey.
Continuous Improvement: We are dedicated to continuous improvement, constantly refining our services to better serve our clients and meet their evolving needs.
HOW WE WORK
At Select Connections, we believe in going on a personal journey with each client. We take the time to get to know you on a deep and individual level, understanding your desires, preferences, and aspirations.
Our mission is to empower you to navigate the world of dating with confidence and success.
Our 'hands-on' service extends beyond simple introductions.
We work closely with you to manage your expectations, providing a sense of grounding and reality to enhance your dating experience. We pinpoint areas where you may have encountered challenges in the past and work with you to develop strategies for greater success.
Our private & confidential network exclusively comprises identity-checked 'singles' who are seeking a companion, partner, husband, or wife to share the next chapter of their lives with.
Select Connections is a unique agency founded and led by Jacqui, 59, and Melinda, 49, both of whom have experienced divorce. A few years ago, they decided to establish an agency exclusively dedicated to mid-life and later-in-life dating. Their motivation stemmed from the belief that agencies serving clients of all ages often fell short of understanding their unique needs, and both had negative online dating experiences.
The Select Connections team, comprised of both male and female coaches and experts, shares the same demographic as our clients. They have personally navigated divorce, separation, or the loss of a loved one.
Our team is dedicated to providing you with the guidance and support you need to find fulfilling and lasting relationships in your later years. We're with you every step of the way.
At Select Connections, we believe that every individual's dating journey is unique, and our service is tailored to reflect your dating aspirations, setting us apart from any online dating experience you may have encountered.
Here is what you can expect from our personalized and supportive process:
1. Initial Contact:
Your journey with us begins by arranging a free, no-obligation discovery call. This call serves as the initial step to discuss the process, and the support we provide, as well as address any questions or concerns you may have.
It's your opportunity to gather all the information you need to make an informed decision about this investment in yourself.
Once your application is approved and contracts are signed, your personal dating matchmaker/mentor will reach out for an in-depth consultation. This allows us to better understand you, your interests, likes and dislikes, what you find attractive, your values, non-negotiables, and your relationship aspirations.
2. Coaching Session:
While your matchmaker begins the search for potential matches, you'll have a coaching session with one of our qualified and accredited dating coaches.
This confidential session provides a space to discuss your dating and relationship experiences and address any concerns you may have about dating.
Depending on your membership level, your coach can continue to support you throughout your dating journey with us, serving as your personal cheerleader.
3. Profile Enhancement:
If applicable, we'll arrange a photoshoot for you and create a professional profile that showcases your best qualities.
While steps 2 and 3 are in progress, your matchmaker will meticulously search for potential matches, hand-picking introductions based on shared values and aspirations.
We'll present profiles for your consideration and ensure that your profile and photographs remain confidential to your matches.
We encourage you to remain open to meeting new people.
If both you and your match express interest in moving forward, we'll facilitate contact to arrange a suitable time and place for your meeting.
Your coach will be available to address any pre-date nerves, and your matchmaker is on hand to provide guidance and advice.
We also offer valuable tips on staying safe during the dating process.
6. Post-Date Evaluation:
Your satisfaction and success are paramount to us. After your date, your personal matchmaker will follow up with a call to discuss how it went and identify any additional needs.
Honesty with us is appreciated, as it helps us fine-tune further matches if necessary.
At Select Connections, our commitment is to be with you every step of the way, offering personalized and supportive guidance to help you find your perfect match and build meaningful, sustainable relationships."
When I approached Select Connections, I had been single for two and a half years and had not attempted online dating. I had heard so many conflicting stories about it, and at 65 years old, I decided that I would try and meet a lady by going out to places where I might bump into someone, strike up a conversation and take it from there!
To cut a very long story short – before the pandemic, this approach did not work. I have no idea where ladies in their 60s go-to for entertainment or socialising, but it certainly was not where I was. I failed to engage with literally any female company, and those I did were not trusting of a gentleman on his own trying to have a conversation with them – and then the pandemic arrived and that put paid to that.
When I looked at the membership fees, I thought it was roughly the cost of a week away on holiday, and I did not want to go on holiday alone.
At least if all went well by the end of the process, I would have what I so greatly desired, someone to spend the next however many years enjoying the nice things in life with and not feeling so lonely.
I am now on my third date. We have been dating now for just over two months. It is going really well, and it is like we have known each other for much longer than we have. Now we can book a holiday for TWO.
My first two dates were attractive ladies, but not the right ones for me. I felt that they were what I had to do to get to where I am now - in the process, you find out things about yourself that you either did not know or totally forgot about
Jacqui worked very hard with me after each date to identify the reasons for it not being the right person, and she used this information to search for a more suitable person – ultimately the right one.
Brian 65 Haslemere
I hear Jacqui on Radio Solent one Saturday morning and everything she said resonated with me and how I felt about the dating world today but I had no idea what to do about it. I scribbled down the website details and completed the contact form and Jacqui got in touch with me and arranged a no-obligation zoom consultation. I felt that Jacqui understood my fears and inhibitions and she seemed to be able to relate to everything I was feeling which made me feel I had chosen the right person to put my faith into on this very important and personal matter. I could go on, but I will be brief - nearly 2 months on and I am nearly 5 weeks into dating a lovely man that I would never have chosen myself, but on Jacqui's advice I gave it a go, and he is so interesting, interested and much more - I feel like a 16-year-old all over again, butterflies as well.
Janet, 58, Accountant, Guildford.
I had been married for 20 years - happily married - or so I thought when my husband told me he was leaving. It was like a bombshell, I was only 50 years old. Luckily I'm really close to my daughter and she helped me rebuild my confidence, but it took about 5 years. She had read something in the paper about a matchmaking service, and she can be very persuasive, my daughter.
Jacqui made me feel safe, she was interested in me and listened as I talked. Well, with plenty of encouragement from both Jacqui and my daughter I braved my first date (a socially distanced walk). As I write this I am very happy to say that my new partner and I are still finding our feet in the relationship but I never imagined it would be so much fun.
Linda (mid 50's)
As a young man I used to love my social life, lots of friends, always out at pubs, clubs, live events, etc. It wasn't till my wife and I split up that I realised that my social circle had slipped away. I tried the dating sites, but I missed the buzz of being meeting people, and making a connection before you ask a lady out.
I saw the Select website, and meetup group and went to a few online events. OK, it was online, but it felt a bit more my kind of thing, so I decided to dive in. My first dating connection didn't get past a zoom chat, but Jacqui coached us both through the feedback and we moved on with no bad feelings. My second connection is a big hit so far, we seem to be getting on really well, although it's early days and I'm still crossing all my fingers.
Andrew (Bournemouth, late 50's)
After much deliberation, I contacted Jacqui for a chat. She was warm, friendly, and very understanding of the situation and my reticence of entering the dating world again, now aged 64 and after over 30 years in my former marriage. She talked me through the process and gave me advice on how to best prepare myself for the journey ahead. With Jacqui by my side, this journey has become a most enjoyable and enlightening experience for me, in which I find I am now confident in myself, embracing my new self-awareness, and first and foremost - loving who I am!! I had two dates just after the New Year that was not for me, but lovely people. I am now on date 7 with my new lady and things are going really well, and I wanted to write this review because of the patience and understanding that Jacqui and Select Connections have shown me from my initial telephone chat right through to checking up on me after my first date.
Jeff, 64, Retired Director, Winchester.