HOW WE WORK
We understand that a relationship breakup can leave you feeling dented and play havoc with your confidence. We have a team of carefully selected coaches who can help build you up again.
Whether it be styling advice to give you a new look, fitness coaching to help you get in trim, dating advice to overcome any apprehensions, or life coaching to help you regain your zest for life, help is on hand.
And our partners are there for you too……
We would like to thank you for placing your faith in our service, and we’re happy to offer you the gift of preferential treatment at any of our preferred partner venues. When you are ready to go on your first date, check our list of venues, use the personalised code we will give you, and we are assured that the team there will do their best to make your evening a little bit special.
Once you have submitted our enquiry form or emailed us, we will make contact to arrange a phone call.
This allows you to ask any initial questions regarding memberships and process as well as getting a feel for the service we offer.
Once you are ready to move forward and have chosen your membership, we will arrange either a face to face meeting at a convenient venue over coffee or virtual meeting.
This is a more in-depth session where we take time to get to know you, your values and your preferences. The information gathered at this meeting will be used to create your professionally written profile should you decide to go ahead.
At this stage, your profile is drawn up for your approval and ID checks are performed (using passport or Driving Licence). Photographs will be selected (depending on the package either a photoshoot will be arranged, or you will provide your own photos)
When I approached Select Connections, I had been single for two and a half years and had not attempted online dating. I had heard so many conflicting stories about it, and at 65 years old, I decided that I would try and meet a lady by going out to places where I might bump into someone, strike up a conversation and take it from there!
To cut a very long story short – before the pandemic, this approach did not work. I have no idea where ladies in their 60s go-to for entertainment or socialising, but it certainly was not where I was. I failed to engage with literally any female company, and those I did were not trusting of a gentleman on his own trying to have a conversation with them – and then the pandemic arrived and that put paid to that.
When I looked at the membership fees, I thought it was roughly the cost of a week away on holiday, and I did not want to go on holiday alone.
At least if all went well by the end of the process, I would have what I so greatly desired, someone to spend the next however many years enjoying the nice things in life with and not feeling so lonely.
I am now on my third date. We have been dating now for just over two months. It is going really well, and it is like we have known each other for much longer than we have. Now we can book a holiday for TWO.
My first two dates were attractive ladies, but not the right ones for me. I felt that they were what I had to do to get to where I am now - in the process, you find out things about yourself that you either did not know or totally forgot about
Jacqui worked very hard with me after each date to identify the reasons for it not being the right person, and she used this information to search for a more suitable person – ultimately the right one.
Brian 65 Haslemere
I hear Jacqui on Radio Solent one Saturday morning and everything she said resonated with me and how I felt about the dating world today but I had no idea what to do about it. I scribbled down the website details and completed the contact form and Jacqui got in touch with me and arranged a no-obligation zoom consultation. I felt that Jacqui understood my fears and inhibitions and she seemed to be able to relate to everything I was feeling which made me feel I had chosen the right person to put my faith into on this very important and personal matter. I could go on, but I will be brief - nearly 2 months on and I am nearly 5 weeks into dating a lovely man that I would never have chosen myself, but on Jacqui's advice I gave it a go, and he is so interesting, interested and much more - I feel like a 16-year-old all over again, butterflies as well.
Janet, 58, Accountant, Guildford.
I had been married for 20 years - happily married - or so I thought when my husband told me he was leaving. It was like a bombshell, I was only 50 years old. Luckily I'm really close to my daughter and she helped me rebuild my confidence, but it took about 5 years. She had read something in the paper about a matchmaking service, and she can be very persuasive, my daughter.
Jacqui made me feel safe, she was interested in me and listened as I talked. Well, with plenty of encouragement from both Jacqui and my daughter I braved my first date (a socially distanced walk). As I write this I am very happy to say that my new partner and I are still finding our feet in the relationship but I never imagined it would be so much fun.
Linda (mid 50's)
As a young man I used to love my social life, lots of friends, always out at pubs, clubs, live events, etc. It wasn't till my wife and I split up that I realised that my social circle had slipped away. I tried the dating sites, but I missed the buzz of being meeting people, and making a connection before you ask a lady out.
I saw the Select website, and meetup group and went to a few online events. OK, it was online, but it felt a bit more my kind of thing, so I decided to dive in. My first dating connection didn't get past a zoom chat, but Jacqui coached us both through the feedback and we moved on with no bad feelings. My second connection is a big hit so far, we seem to be getting on really well, although it's early days and I'm still crossing all my fingers.
Andrew (Bournemouth, late 50's)
After much deliberation, I contacted Jacqui for a chat. She was warm, friendly, and very understanding of the situation and my reticence of entering the dating world again, now aged 64 and after over 30 years in my former marriage. She talked me through the process and gave me advice on how to best prepare myself for the journey ahead. With Jacqui by my side, this journey has become a most enjoyable and enlightening experience for me, in which I find I am now confident in myself, embracing my new self-awareness, and first and foremost - loving who I am!! I had two dates just after the New Year that was not for me, but lovely people. I am now on date 7 with my new lady and things are going really well, and I wanted to write this review because of the patience and understanding that Jacqui and Select Connections have shown me from my initial telephone chat right through to checking up on me after my first date.
Jeff, 64, Retired Director, Winchester.