Searching for the Spark!

I had to write this blog because I am frustrated with people telling me they 'didn't feel the spark'......REALLY!

I have seen so many people enter into or dismiss a relationship based on their answer to this question.

I don’t know how this apparently all-important “spark” has reached legendary status in the dating world and seems to be a distinct requirement in the over 50s dating world and even more prevalent in the over 60s dating world!

Many people I talk to or send on dates seem to think if there’s not this immediate lightning bolt of attraction the moment they meet, then that means there’s nothing worth pursuing.

I believe that shared values, genuine respect, commonalities such as a similar sense of humour, various interests, life experiences and beliefs are great starters in anyone's book.

Sparks can come later, as you get to know each other better. Have you ever met someone and not been instantly attracted to them, but through conversation and getting to know them, you find that suddenly you fall for them - they make you laugh, they are interesting, and they are interested in you.

An initial spark does not mean that love will naturally follow. So to dismiss or reject someone immediately for this reason alone seems very shortsighted to me.

I am sure many of you reading this have had that 'initial spark' before and rushed in - did love naturally follow? What was the outcome of the relationship?

My Advice:

If you had a pleasant enough time on the first date, but you aren’t feeling that initial spark, going on a few more dates can end up surprising you in ways you could never have imagined.

As long as you know deep down in your heart that you did not write someone off for lack of a spark, even if it wasn’t a love connection in the long run.

All the very best


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