Life can change in an instant. One day, you’re making plans for the future, and the next, everything shifts.
Last week, I experienced a painful reminder of this when a wonderful client I had the pleasure of knowing passed away unexpectedly. He was in his early 70s, full of life, and enjoying his senior years with enthusiasm. He had found companionship, made plans for the future, and was looking forward to meeting someone new after returning from a cruise. Sadly, that day never came.
His story has deeply affected me, and I feel compelled to share it. As a dating mentor for singles in their 50s, 60s, and beyond, I often see people hesitate—whether due to fear, being overly selective, or waiting for the "perfect" moment. But the truth is, life doesn’t always wait for us to be ready.
This gentleman found companionship with a lovely lady through our introduction network. While they weren’t romantically involved, they enjoyed each other’s company—going on outings, attending the theatre, and having meaningful conversations.
Though he had hoped for a deeper connection, what they shared was valuable and brought him genuine joy.
His story is a powerful reminder of the importance of being open to different possibilities. Companionship, connection, and shared experiences are often more fulfilling than waiting for an idealised version of love that may never come.
As we age, it’s easy to become more set in our ways or overly picky about who we meet. I often hear things like, "I’m waiting for someone who ticks all my boxes" or "I want to make sure the next person is the one." But here’s the reality—no one is perfect. The more time you spend waiting, the less time you have to enjoy life with someone by your side.
Whether you’re looking for a companion to share outings with or a deeper romantic relationship, waiting too long can mean missing out on the connection and support you need right now. None of us know how much time we have left, and every moment spent hesitating is a moment lost. The longer you hold off, the greater the chance you’ll look back with regret, wondering why you didn’t take that chance sooner.
Don’t let time slip away. The connections you seek—companionship, shared experiences, support—are within reach if you’re open to them.
Don’t Put Off What Truly Matters
This gentleman never got the chance to meet the next lady he was excited about. His time, like all of ours, eventually ran out. But despite wanting more, he found joy and fulfillment in the companionship he had. It’s a reminder for all of us not to wait until tomorrow, because tomorrow isn’t guaranteed. Even without romance, companionship brings immense meaning and happiness to our lives.
If you’ve been thinking about reaching out to someone or have been holding back from meeting new people because of fear, disappointment, or uncertainty, I encourage you to take that step now.
Life is too short to spend your days, evenings, weekends, and now the long autumn and winter nights—leading up to Christmas and the New Year—without someone to enjoy them with. Don’t keep postponing the chance for companionship and warmth.
This experience has made me reflect on my own life, and I hope it does the same for you. While it’s natural to be cautious or selective, there comes a time when you have to ask yourself—what am I really waiting for? Every day is an opportunity to meet someone who can enrich your life.
Whether it’s a companion or a romantic partner, these relationships matter deeply at any stage of life—but especially as we grow older and face the possibility of being alone. Loneliness can take a toll on our health and well-being, making companionship all the more essential.
If you’re feeling uncertain or have been holding back, take a moment to reflect on how short life truly is. Whether you meet someone through a friend, a chance encounter, or by stepping out of your comfort zone, the most important thing is not to wait. Fear and hesitation can keep us from fully living, but having someone to share your life with—whether through companionship or love—makes all the difference.
Take good care: 💕
Jacqui Baker
Over 50s Dating Mentor & Matchmaker
01483378767
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