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Finding Love in a Politically Charged World: Tips for Older Singles

Managing the Dating Scene Before the UK Election: Handling Strong Political Views

Dating in your 50s, 60s, and beyond can be a rewarding journey, but it comes with unique challenges, especially when strong political views are involved.

With the UK election in a few days, politics is a hot topic, and it can be particularly divisive. Here’s how to manage these strong views while dating and trying to hold down a new relationship.

The Challenge of Political Views in Dating

Political opinions can be deeply personal and significant in shaping our identities. For some, these views are non-negotiable, and they may struggle to connect with someone who holds opposing beliefs. This is a common scenario among older singles, many of whom have well-established views.

A Real-Life Example

Consider a former client of mine in his late 60s. He was so wrapped up and obsessed with Brexit that he asked the ladies on his introduction call if they voted for or against leaving the EU. This was very off-putting for most ladies, and even those who made it to a date with him found it challenging. While they acknowledged he was a lovely man at heart, they couldn’t move past his fixation on Brexit. Sadly, this obsession is a significant reason why he remains single.

Tips for Managing Political Views While Dating

1. Open Communication

Encourage open and respectful conversations about political views early on (but not too early on!). Setting clear expectations and understanding each other’s perspectives can prevent misunderstandings.

2. Focus on Common Ground

Find shared values and interests beyond politics. Building a foundation on mutual interests can strengthen the relationship and provide a buffer against political disagreements.

3. Agree to Disagree

It’s okay to have differing opinions. The key is maintaining respect and avoiding letting political differences overshadow the relationship. Accept that some topics may remain unresolved.

4. Set Boundaries

Set boundaries around political discussions to prevent conflicts. Agree on specific times or situations when politics are off-limits, allowing both parties to enjoy their time together without tension.

5. Empathy and Understanding

Practice empathy by trying to understand where the other person is coming from. Even if you don’t agree, recognising their perspective can develop mutual respect and compassion.

6. Stay Informed, Not Confrontational

Stay informed about political issues, but avoid confrontational debates. Being well-informed can lead to more productive and less heated discussions.

7. Respect and Tolerance

Respect the other person’s right to their opinions and encourage an atmosphere of tolerance. Recognising and valuing different viewpoints can enrich the relationship.

8. Personal Reflection

Reflect on how much weight you give to political views in your dating life. Ask yourself if these views are a dealbreaker or if you can find common ground and compromise.

By following these tips, older singles can navigate the dating scene before the election, balancing their strong political views with the need to respect differing opinions. Building a successful relationship requires understanding, empathy, and the willingness to look beyond political differences to connect on a deeper level.


Dating before an election can be challenging, but it’s also an opportunity to grow and learn about each other. By managing political views thoughtfully and respectfully, older singles can find genuine bonds and build lasting relationships, even in politically charged times.

Don't let strong political views leave you lonely and alone. Take action today and open the door to a better more open minded lifestyle.

Jacqui Baker


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