Since becoming single in my mid-50s, I have found out that nowadays, many of the younger generations date multiple people at one time, which is seen to be 'the thing'. Now, back in the 80s, this was called 'two timing', and I remember at 19 years old being very guilty of this particular crime!😮🤦♀️ I was dating John and along came Paul, I know...I am a Catholic, and John Paul was a popular name with popes back then, but this was a coincidence!🙏
Anyway, I digress, the guilt was too much for me, and I felt so bad for so long about this one instance of dating two people at one time that I did not ever cross this line again.
Today, I am led to believe this is the 'norm', and younger singles now date a few people simultaneously with 'no guilt' attached. Still, total acceptance that you must do this until you decide that one of the people you are dating might be the one you want to become 'exclusive' with!.....something akin to 'finding a job'.....you apply for a few and settle for one!
At first, I thought, this is absolutely crazy and unfair to each of the people you are dating. Still, now I have had time to really think about it, I think it is something that would not and will not sit comfortably with me in my late 50s because of the values I have taken with me since the age of 19, as well as feeling so ashamed of myself back then (all innocent fun!). Still, if I were young in today's world, it would be a good thing to do, as long as you did not take advantage of the situation and practice fair morals.
Maybe this would result in less separation and divorce rates later in life? But who knows......
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Have a great week, it's nearly March and the evenings are getting longer, life is returning to some sort of normal, and we have a lot to be grateful for this year.😁
Take good care.
Jacqui
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