Are you lucky enough to have a first date on this beautiful Bank Holiday Weekend?
At Select Connections, we aim to provide all our clients and members with as much advice & guidance as we possibly can to help them improve their chances of getting to a second or third date.
Sometimes it's just that one little change that can make all the difference 😊
See a brief outline of my top tips for successful dating mid-life & later-in-life below:
Keep your first dates casual and low-key.
To help you with this, we've come up with a list of things not to do on your first date:
Don't try to be adventurous or creative on your first date - we like to suggest a walk and then a cuppa or a glass of wine, or if the weather is not permitting on the day or evening, then a nice cosy cafe or wine bar.
Don't dismiss your date because they're not your type.
Don't put too much pressure on yourself - be yourself and enjoy meeting someone new.
Don't talk about yourself endlessly.
Don't quiz your date, but being interested in them on a lighter note is good.
Don't talk about your ex or ex's.
Don't talk about politics or religion - we know that dating mid-life & later-in-life means that we have strong opinions, but these do not need to be aired on a first date!
Don't have your phone on the table - we suggest you put it on silent before the date and remain from checking until after the date.
If you have children, don't talk about them endlessly - but don't forget to mention them.
Don't avoid eye contact - if continual eye contact makes you uncomfortable on a first date, then we suggest going for a walk (above) or sitting at a right angle to each other - this will make you both feel more relaxed, and the date will feel less intense.
Keep it light
The Do's are short and simple - relax, enjoy, and be yourself. What will be, will be, and with this approach, you will remove the pressure, giving yourself more chance of getting to the second date, and then ....
For the full list of my detailed resource, please visit my websites below:
Have a lovely weekend, and take good care of yourselves.
Jacqui B x